The month of February is the month for passion and romance. Think about it. The weather is cold and damp, naturally forcing us inside around a cozy fire and snuggled under a soft blanket with that special someone. The intoxicating scent of luxurious roses, the sweet indulgence of decadent chocolates, and the sparkle of jeweled clad teddy bears are constant reminders that February is the month that’s made just for lovers.

Speaking of lovers, what turns you on about yours? Are you turned upside down by full luscious lips or by an ass so hard, it could crush diamonds? Or, would you prefer mental orgasm?

PassionScape poses the question: What turns you on?

This month, we hear from author and poet, Chloe R.  Her short stories can be found in Erogenous Zone (Xpress Yourself Publishing), Mental Seductions (Diva Books Publishing) and the upcoming erotic anthology Mocha Chocolate (Shanibooks, Inc.).  Her article, Hiding From Erotica?, will be featured in the upcoming issue of Noire Magazine. Chloe’s first erotic novel, Discovering Love, is scheduled for release in 2009 by Xpress Yourself Publishing.  For more information, visit her at http://www.chloewrites.com.

Irreplaceable Mental Stimulation

By

Chloe R. 
 

It would be disingenuous to say that physical appearance didn’t matter, didn’t draw me in or spark my imagination.  The simple shape of a man’s head can make my mind wonder; the thickness of his bottom lip might send undeniable sparks across my thighs.  Sometimes, the way he moves, smiles, rests comfortably within himself, speaks volumes about his manhood and all his possibilities, inspiring the most intimate me.  His physical appearance tells me how he wants to portray himself, whether he appears calm and confident, or seems tacky, rude and uncouth.  It gives me a surface screening, a sample, a taste test of what special gifts he may possess.  But that is all.  And, to turn me on, and hopefully turn me out, a small hint of the man is not nearly enough. 

While the physical appearance may turn my head, make me giggle in embarrassment by the sensual thoughts passing through my mind, or inexplicably flirt, it only satisfies the surface urge.  A few sentences, a couple of minutes of interaction, and every preconceived notion of masculinity can shatter like splintered crystal or simply fade away in the wind.  The words that tumble from his lips flow from his soul. A conversation that reveals an empty spirit, a clueless mind or a crass sense of humor immediately destroys all physical attraction.  Well, maybe not all, but enough that I couldn’t fully release all of me while making love to him.  If he can’t observe the simple things, can’t take notice of natural beauty, can’t identify a diamond in the rough, then, no matter how strong his masculine pull initially felt, it would end up loudly seeping out like a tear in a helium balloon.  

But, mental stimulation.  Damn.  How can it be replaced or substituted?  A man who was only a friend can transform before my eyes, turning into the best lover, causing the deepest sexual longing and invoking the richest intimate satisfaction.  By mental stimulation.  It begins as a connection.  An unspoken thing. A shared vibe. A unique rhythm that we enjoy.  But his eyes, his smile, his caress and his suggestions tell me his desires.  And, as I said before, the words that tumble from his lips flow from his soul.  As he speaks, he affirms my femininity.  He invokes beauty in sensual ribbons that wrap around my brain and tie delicately across my body.  I understand him and, more importantly, I feel understood.  And that allows me to be free, to release myself to the passion rolling within me.  Before he kisses me, my lips already feel him and the roof of my mouth already tingles.  Before he touches me, my skin already burns, satin already releases in preparation for him.  All because he explored my mental, stimulated my mind, and gave me a space of trust and delicious intimacy.   

And that, in my opinion, is a zone that can never be replaced by simple physical attraction. 

Now, it’s your turn. Let me know if you agree with Chloe or if you are turned on by stimulation of a different kind.