It’s a sister thang: Oneness as sisters

Rhonica’s Notebook


Rhonica Wesley

Black women have often been deemed loud, unruly, ignorant, and sometimes irrational in the entertainment world. Though it is entertaining to some of us, it is not in the least bit a laughing matter because sometimes it hits the nail right on the head. On numerous accounts women were portrayed this way in such movies as; “Friday,” Starring Ice Cube, Chris Tucker, and Regina King. In “Baby Boy.” Starring Tyrese and snoop dog, “Baps,” A movie that starred Halle Berry. The list is endless, and though most of us have grown to love some of these movies, do we really stop and take a look at ourselves?

Instead of downing each other, don’t you think it’s time that we uplift each other? African-American women have been stereotyped too long, and though we are making a change we are still not out of the woods.

“I know that she didn’t wear that.”

“Girl did you hear what happened to Gina.”

“I got some news for you, and it’s about that &#*@& Wendy.”

You’ve heard it on the subway,in class, just around the way. You’ve listened to the gossip, and sometimes even started some yourself. Gossip can sometimes be harmful to relationships that we have with those we love. It’s easy enough to say, “Just butt out.” but when juicy gossip hits the street, we all want to know. Recently I found on yahoo answers a question sent by a woman, the question stated,

Question for black women only…!?

how to do you feel about other black experiences with other black women is always negative…they always looking at me with their faces all frowned up…when i walk into a retail shop they don’t look like my way..but…if a white woman or someone less attractive walks in they run and break their neck to help them..why are most sistas so negative,evil and jealous?
The young lady was merely suggesting that black women were not fond of her because she was more attractive and black. Is this true? do we as black women single each other out because we feel threatened, and jealous even?

In the past we thought a good way to keep down mess, was to keep out business to ourselves, but it is sometimes that one sister that we think is trustworthy who is spreading our news all over town. As the black community rapidly progresses, and we are becoming more active in our neighborhoods, and earning degrees, and awards to better ourselves. We as role models to our younger generation of young black women need to realize that oneness is important. If you viewed my video “they for them and we for us,” you’ll understand when I say a comforting word is more than a downgrading one. It is “Us” sisters for our generation. It is time to take life by the reins and teach and nurture our young women. Oneness means coming together and standing for what we believe in. Less iniquity and more equality among our sisters. no matter what side of the tracks she comes from, what she wears or how fresh her hairstyle is. it’s time we made this a sister thang.